The month leading up to your wedding is all about tying up loose ends. From breaking in your shoes to finalising seating plans, this post outlines the best time to tackle all of those finer details.
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Wedding Planning Checklist: 1 month before
Chill out. Seriously.
One month before your wedding can be one of the most stressful times of your life. And with good reason too – you have a lot of different vendors to manage and details you need to refine. I’ve been there, and I know you want to blow up at anyone who’s getting in the way of your vision.
Put down the baseball bat, Beyonce. If you haven’t taken up meditation, yoga, or a relaxing tea ritual, it’s time to take your foot off the accelerator. You are not too good, too busy, or too important to put your own sanity first. In fact, if you schedule some downtime you’ll actually be far more productive in love, life, work and wedding planning. In fact, it’s been proven that naps can improve your performance and memory
. Schedule a date with your pillow – now.
Got a few lazy bones friends who haven’t RSVP’d? Call them. It’s your wedding, and you need a headcount, stat.
Complete a Notice of Intended Marriage form
A completely bureaucratic and unexciting activity, yes, but this is required for your marriage to be deemed legal by Australian law. You have to complete this and provide to your marriage celebrant at least one month before the wedding. More on this over here
Getting married overseas? It’s best you contact the embassy, high commission or consulate of the country you’ll be getting married in, as each country has different laws. The Smart Traveller website has more information about this over here.
Having a same-sex wedding? Some forward-thinking states and territories allow people to register their same-sex relationship with the registries of births, deaths and marriages. Find out if your state is progressive and inclusive over here
One last wedding dress fitting
A vision of you in your wedding dress is what people will remember about your wedding, so you’ll want to make sure that your dress feels as amazing as it looks. Pay one last visit to your dressmaker a month before your wedding to ensure everything is perfect.
Stock up on champagne
Now that you have a set headcount for the event, it’s time to ensure that everyone will be relaxed enough to dance the night away at the reception. Order more than enough refreshments – both alcoholic and non-alcoholic – to ensure a good time is had by all.
A pile up of bills can be stressful. My advice is to ask for final invoices from vendors now, so you can save your time, attention and energy. Plus, it’s good karma!
Draw up a seating plan
If you want to assign seats to people, grab a large sheet of paper, draw out table shapes, and plan the settings. Put the names of people on sticky notes so you can move people around without redrawing the entire thing. Take photos of the plan and send to your wedding venue, so that they can set it up with name cards on the day.
Write your vows
If you’re stuck for inspiration, read some poetry and books, research online, and then go over a top-level summary of the vows with your partner. Wedding vows are incredibly personal, and you’ll want to decide together whether they’re poetic and romantic, funny and cheeky, or serious and religious. You don’t have to share the entire thing with them, but it helps if you have an idea of how they’ll respond to what you’ve written.
Most importantly, come up with a few promises. They’re called vows after all. They can be broad, like “I promise to always be by your side”, or specific, like, “I promise to make sure we always have peanut butter in the pantry.”
Practice, practice, practice, and then print off a legible copy to read on the day.
One week before
Organise assistants for the day
If you don’t have a wedding planner, you’ll need to think about who’ll be there to greet the vendors, who’ll be an usher for guests before the ceremony, and who will carry the rings.
Pick up your dress
And store somewhere safe and odourless.
Along with a stress-relieving massage, book in a manicure, a pedicure, and a haircut and colour if you do colour your hair. Now is not the time to experiment with a new style, so stick with what you usually do.
Break in your shoes
Treat your living room as your own personal catwalk and prepare those feet for a glamorous day ahead.
Remember that nothing is perfect
Here’s a simple truth: something might go amiss on your wedding day. A baby might start crying during your vows. Aunt Joan might be placed next to their arch nemesis at the reception. And you might throw the bouquet and hit someone in the eye. Oops! But just remember – these little details don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. It’s your and your partner’s day, and as long as you’re enjoying yourselves and actually GET MARRIED, you’ve set out what you achieved to do.
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